Infidelity is No Joke...

When I confessed that “I love You”

You said, it wasn’t true,

An infatuation you said it was,

My heart skipped a beat to take a pause.

The blush on these cheeks soon turned pale,

Shattering the plot of my adorable fairytale.

But that’s where this damsel went wrong,

Believing that the charming prince to me did belong,

Twas the serpent of the Nile to Cleopatra who approached,

To once convey that Antony had been encroached,

For one ruth Ceasar’s sister who was waiting to be wed,

Only to later be consummated in bed

With the victorious Hercules, who for her didn’t care,

Because his love for the swan couldn’t be left bare.

But,

I’m no Cleopatra and Antony shall not come back,

Leaving me in wonder of what is it that I lack?

The question raised above is the one raised by no ordinary woman but a wife doomed under the burden of adultery. Infidelity, extra marital affairs and consequent divorces are no longer issues that remain uncommon and unheard of. Infact, their ratio in today’s world has reached a stage where they comprise as a part and parcel of our lives. However behind the apparent common are matters that are uncalled for and can disrupt the potential of a woman. Infidelity is often perceived as a sign of rejection and can invade upon and impede the perceived image of the self. This post will not go beyond to address the issue further. It has been put up on this portal only to raise questions and that’s just about what it will do.

What right do you have to first use me and then toss me away onto the heap of garbage?

Break Free from Marriage Conservatism

“It is a truth universally acknowledged that a man in possession of a good fortune must be in search for a wife.”

-Jane Austen

Famous lines such as these often set me thinking about certain social by laws laid down by God knows who for a whatnot reason. The idea of marriage has often lead to deep introspection but the idea of “searching” for a wife has left jitters running down my spine bringing along with them a feeling of discomfort. I have yet not been able to comprehend the reason behind people looking for “tall, fair, slim, convent educated girl, with traditional values” of so and so caste not to forget the recently added parameter – “MBA”. The issue that arises here,  (apart from the inherent flaws) is fairly clear - If I am an MBA myself, my fortune must be overwhelmingly loaded with a five figure salary, so consequently, why should I be available for a man, highly accomplished with money in thy purse???

Marriage is one such Institution whose rules and regulations have not changed over a period of time. No MBA could draw out an innovative strategy like the “Marriage Mix” and there shall be no second Michael Porter to chart out the five forces that could avert the atrocities of the legacy of this Institution. Parents in the 20^th Century are very modern when it comes to upbringing their daughters in the so called “modernized paradigm” and yet would take a comfortable back end when it comes to Marriage Conservatism. But what annoys me most to the extent of ripping my nerves apart is that many young girls today (by young I mean as young as 22-23yrs) are more than happy to conform passively to the long treaded path of their mothers and grandmothers to find a “perfect match” for themselves.

What the older generation conveniently ignored and the younger generation fails to rationalize upon is that there is no “perfect match” that can be found by searching for it. Marriage is a union of two souls and their compatibility cannot be mapped by others but is a direct consequence of their regard for each other. In today’s world, a convent educated girl has all rights to step out into the open with all her accomplishments to make a choice. The idea is that change is inevitable and must fight against all odds to assert and yet again re-assert itself. It’s now time for our lasses to inadvertently break free from the shackles of slumber and question in wrath, the barbarity and enormity of Conventionalism.